Thought of the day: What's love? Got to do, got to do with it?-not Fat Joe's, but Tina Turner's... (Saturday 30/12/06)

What's really love anyway? I watched a TV show, 'Pillow Talk', one of an episod that the invited celebrity for discussing about what are the opinions they could offer. Most of them, between men and women, would have not even one in common within 2 people. It's so individual and everyone has their particulars of it.

Same to me, i would've voice out differently, and they wouldn't agreed either, as they went through lots and lots of relationships, not to mention us, normal civilian has no limit in one kind of love.

Besides, we better start off this topic.


How love started in life? Have you ever think back how was it feel like back then? Like em, trying to flirt on a girl he ever dreamed of everyday and night, what may comes to him proposing her, how does it feel like? Anxious? Nervous to the maximum? Excited?

There are so many symptoms, which most of it has been acted on screen. I can't remember how it feels like cuz everytime i had the best from my girl, so i'm way over the league to find out the lower ones, don't argue at the way i'm not appreciate it, of course i am.

Indeed, it's necessary to try feel back how is it feel like and you could find out how pure it was. It's so innocent, dreaming all the way and fantasize a love story together with your dream girl. Ok, it's just somehow things would happened back then. I wouldn't deny myself never been through that way. It's nice to have that feeling, that's pure love.

When there's a reply from the dream girl, you would just anything that she wanted, or maybe she didn't, you had to do it just to impress her. As a matter of fact, it's natural for men to show their capability to women as a sign of being a real man. Any stupid ideas would come, in the end it really didn't matter at all. What a girl wants from a guy, is the honesty and pure heart.

For now you wouldn't agreed that fast. There's more to find out.

It's also natural for guys to get jealous and mad at girls who wouldn't pick up calls in time, never get to locate and spend time with her, girls would've the same nature too. As it's goes a matter to argue a little thing, both wouldn't give up their pride to stand down. Well, along the way they go, the more stiffed issues becoming worst then. Break ups always happened then.

Or maybe some are not tolerant enough to deal each other's privacy. Everyone has the rights to protect their privacy, and much less to offer in love. Despise that, men could've other woman beside his family and the situation got even worst, which always happened when woman can't stop nagging of things over and over again, from morning till night. No kidding, it's not every rich men do, some average or poor also did the same. It's not even money, it's love that never despise men's depression. Maybe it's unfair to women out there, what's beneath the truth was men worked all his life to get things well at home, inclusively children's financial, house, cars, loans, investment, meeting people, pay utilities, family vacation... So much matters men contributed, and what men really needed is to have peace at home.

Men did understand of women's life at home. For now, i focusing on housewives. Every single day, women do house chores from morning till night, i've seen a few. My mom wasn't really a kind of relaxing person, she's a total workaholic maniac, she could just find anything to do until the night's calling. You'll be suprised to see my parent's house is a mess with all the things my mom kept. She stopped doing house chores that often, she went joining temple working freelance cleaner cum cook. Oddly knows, she couldn't help to stop doing such charity without any concerns of our own property.

It's a boring job being a housewife. Kids playing around and messed up things, dirty clothes needed to be cleaned up, floors went sticky after a few days of neglecting it, the meat had to defroze for dinner, do this and that, everyday, everytime were the same old shit. No wonder why the women went boredom at their carefree life. Of course, women wouldn't have to worried about their expenses. Money would've come so easily anytime, if they want. Also, it's not a housewife being employed, it's a self employed, not a business, but it's like you're lepaking in a house where you need to take care of it, so you wouldn't have to get troubled with the situation. People wanted to evolve, and in a house doing same thing doesn't provide further more experience. Career would've a different aspect, it's not everyone of us dare to work house chores for other people!

And when comes to this point, they went berserk at men wherever men came back from work, mostly after dinner, in room privately. Men could've been stressed from work, with a little soft at their hearts, they'll be melted as no heat upon the ice. Men only have a simple request to women, serve them well, that's all. Love them as they were loved by the night club girls, the ones they flirt around, make them more impressed and won't be late back home, excited to see what's going with the women.

Stressed can't be stopped, but prevention does the job. Well then women, understand how things worked if it's reversed? Men wouldn't be so greedy at girls. They wanted the same love as every guys wanted, as for you women out there to practise how to use your body language effectively...

As we men never proud to admit that we never did have any weakness. After all, we all buffs. We talked as no tomorrow but when it became a tomorrow, our darlings declare their hearts to their 'true heroes'... Yeah, i've been exaggerating much though, sorry. However, what's our weakness would be, our pride as much heavier than women, strong enough to carry as we never wanted to put it down.

That's right, it's a heavy burden for being a true men. We've lots to carry on and never leave anything behind, we've been stubborn all the time and we need to settle down for some time to think through... What we need to do to impress the women? Not presents or anything, it's words that came from men admitting his mistakes and plea for forgiveness. You maybe saw some on TV drama shows some couples in arguement could've this similar situation. Putting the pride aside, lay low on voice and tell her that you're sorry, you made a mistake, bla bla bla, add some sugar and spice, everything went nice! Make her cry, make her smile again. Make her happy all the time, as talking makes an important role for a relationship.

We need to talk.

Yup, not seriously with you. It's like a quote of every conversation taken in first place. With some talks, there maybe solutions and agreement we could make. It's also natural to have things admitted before it got worst without knowing it earlier. Discuss the matters in proper way, soft talks could work, like during bedtime, or in a coffee shop, dinner time and so on. Anywhere, as long as the talk done. Complete the whole mutual understanding from each other, and there's no way it'll go wrong, unless someone broke the rule.

With pride was put aside, we'll need tolerance. Of course, in some sort of arguement, nothing would stop if both parties having the same attitude. Both works both hands we have, we can't really wrestle our hands, even when we're so free enough to do so, or getting drunk to have such kind of odd activity, nothing really can do about it. That's what's a 'couple', 'both' and some other words could define a 2-persons-relationship, man and woman. If one party, like men could do the first move to impress women, after all it's a double blow. Be sad at face and hateful among ourselves, plea for the love's sake, and tell women how much we love them, any kind of words. A perfect combination, which not advisable to use it for escaping your mistakes! What i've reviewed here has more than i shouldn't.

As for my part of relationship with my girl now, it has been 4 years and still running ahead. She's never been tired of seeing me weak in progress. She knew what's good in me and morally i helped her a lot. I never despise her will to love me, and i know i should be doing something that make her even more happy. Everything in a mess after i've left my cousin's company. I knew i should stick back my previous job before i joined my cousin.

My girl really helped me by planning something which we could work together. I don't want to review much here as things on the way planning ahead. I'm worried that if it didn't work out, as not as i think i couldn't work things out. It's an Almighty's gift to me, a fine young lady could do so much to me, i could let go every pride i have and deal with a better life. I want it work, as for her wish to be an employer than an employee. Pride's nothing, it's not based on what i've to live on. It's money, with proper plans and discussions, further developement and assessment, then the money making machine runs till you fed up at the routine of it.

I wonder what has turn to her? Yes, i did mention of things she needs to understand of me, and the way i love her.

From the start of our relationship, we had been discussed of our own life's principles. She has her own, and i understand it very well and not to say she doesn't but, only sometimes she's being naive and wanna do something to impress me, what a lively girl. 'Both' of us have many favorites in common, and lots of things we could talk about, and what makes us turn into a long lasting 'couples'. Yes, i've used the words.

For now, all i could say is, even love is how you want it to be, there's need of tender to solve it. Arguement can't prevent, but could lessen for sure. Both stones can't break each other, but with an egg, the whole show ends a breaktime. Not for couples, but towards parents or anybody you love, it works and you'll become a loving person.

There's lots of theory besides mine but as far as i concern, it's really nothing personal upon this matter. I'm sharing it and getting feedbacks from you guys. Spread love.